The first thing children learn when they have a narcissistic parent is how to blame themselves. We know that this childhood abuse — whether overt psychological warfare, covert emotional manipulation, or the …

From Toxicity To Triumph
From Toxicity To Triumph
The first thing children learn when they have a narcissistic parent is how to blame themselves. We know that this childhood abuse — whether overt psychological warfare, covert emotional manipulation, or the …
“Self-abandonment was my way of dealing with their abandonment.” This is the realization one of my readers came to and shared with me in a recent email. They continued, “What’s …
How many of you didn’t pursue your goals and dreams? How many of you aren’t just grieving what happened to you, but are grieving the loss of who you wanted …
My phone tells me how many hours I spend online. The weekly report offers comparisons from one week to the next; Was I up 33% from last week? Was it …
How long before I am healed? That is the most common question I am asked during consults. Will it be 6 months? 2 years? A decade still? How long before …
Healing is about feeling. If you’ve ever stepped into a therapy office, chances are you have been asked the question, “How do you feel about that?” If you are anything …
Attachment trauma isn’t something that happens in convenient pockets throughout the day, turning on and off and giving you a break every once in a while. Attachment trauma happens always. …
The most difficult feeling in your life won’t be the pain that comes from deep loss. It won’t be the grief, anxiety and depression that follow trauma. And it won’t …
One of the questions I get asked a lot is “How do I recover when there is so much out of my control?” For example, when I am still living …
Grief is what we experience when we have a painful loss. Grief can be very “clean” when we’ve had things like closure after a relationship, the ability to say goodbye …