The Magic Question Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Always Forget To Ask
My last article had a bit of a cheeky headline: Does your therapist like you? The desire to be liked and wanted is a survival response that emerges out of …
Does Your Therapist Like You? Exploring “Good Client Syndrome”
One of the questions I was repeatedly asked growing up was, “Are you sure they like you?” Whenever I met a new friend or talked about someone I was hanging …
Did They Get Away With It? How To Recover Without Justice Or Accountability.
Betrayal. Hypocrisy. Injustice. Reputation Assassination. Identity theft. Because that’s what it is, isn’t it? When the Narcissistic System or Scapegoat Machine gets a hold of you… Emotional kidnapping. Love held …
Learning To Trust Again After Narcissistic Abuse
The first thing children learn when they have a narcissistic parent is how to blame themselves. We know that this childhood abuse — whether overt psychological warfare, covert emotional manipulation, or the …
Recovering From Self-Abandonment After Narcissistic and Scapegoat Abuse
“Self-abandonment was my way of dealing with their abandonment.” This is the realization one of my readers came to and shared with me in a recent email. They continued, “What’s …
Reigniting Your Joy, Energy, and Motivation After Narcissistic System Abuse
Are you languishing in life? Not to be that person that reminds you of the existential horror of the pandemic but…remember that? Remember when you were sitting at home, lonely …
Self-Policing: How Narcissistic System Abuse Teaches Us To Abandon Ourselves
I’m sitting by a woodstove while the sun glistens off several feet of crisp white snow outside my window. The dark days of winter are hard, but days like this …
How “Narcissistic Training” Harms You Even When You’ve Left Toxicity Behind
How many of you didn’t pursue your goals and dreams? How many of you aren’t just grieving what happened to you, but are grieving the loss of who you wanted …
Risking Imperfection as a Survivor of Narcissistic System and Scapegoating Abuse
Do you ever feel the paralyzing effects of perfectionism? When I was doing my doctorate, my burnout levels were so high that I ended up having to write my entire …
Toxic Nostalgia: What To Do When Narcissistic System Abuse and Scapegoating Poison Your Cherished Memories and Objects
Ongoing trauma processing can sneak up on you when least expected. Just when you think the nightmares are over, boom you’re hit with some unknown trigger that sets your nervous …