Are you languishing in life? Not to be that person that reminds you of the existential horror of the pandemic but…remember that? Remember when you were sitting at home, lonely …
Self-Policing: How Narcissistic System Abuse Teaches Us To Abandon Ourselves
I’m sitting by a woodstove while the sun glistens off several feet of crisp white snow outside my window. The dark days of winter are hard, but days like this …
Toxic Nostalgia: What To Do When Narcissistic System Abuse and Scapegoating Poison Your Cherished Memories and Objects
Ongoing trauma processing can sneak up on you when least expected. Just when you think the nightmares are over, boom you’re hit with some unknown trigger that sets your nervous …
Rumination: The Invisible Trauma Bond That Re-Attaches You To Toxicity
My phone tells me how many hours I spend online. The weekly report offers comparisons from one week to the next; Was I up 33% from last week? Was it …
Going No Contact On Your Terms: Hidden Choices, Power Moves, And The Reality Of ‘Navigating’ Narcissistic Systems
“I’ve been no contact for 23 years…and I still cry every day” “I went no-contact last week and I’ve never felt more free” “I can’t keep playing this Rigged Game, …
The Surprising Ways You Are Stuck In Recovery
How long before I am healed? That is the most common question I am asked during consults. Will it be 6 months? 2 years? A decade still? How long before …
Emotional Survival Skills For The Family Scapegoat: Granting Yourself ‘Permission To Feel’ Can Set You Free
Healing is about feeling. If you’ve ever stepped into a therapy office, chances are you have been asked the question, “How do you feel about that?” If you are anything …
Six Ways To Move Beyond Anger and Injustice After Narcissistic and Scapegoating Abuse
Injustice can stall us halfway through our stories of recovery. We have grieved the pain and losses, and we have worked on finding our voice, but when that wall of …
5 Signs Of “Recovery Burnout” And Why Survivors Of Narcissistic and Scapegoating Abuse Are More At Risk
What happens when you’re in your trauma journey and you are actually too burnt out to even talk with your coach or therapist? How do you heal when the thought …
How Toxic Families Rob You Of Your Life, Joy And Identity (And How To Get Them Back)
If this were a poem, it would be titled “All That You’ve Lost”. One of the hardest parts of being an adult with attachment trauma is looking back on your …