Betrayal. Hypocrisy. Injustice. Reputation Assassination. Identity theft. Because that’s what it is, isn’t it? When the Narcissistic System or Scapegoat Machine gets a hold of you… Emotional kidnapping. Love held …
Learning To Trust Again After Narcissistic Abuse
The first thing children learn when they have a narcissistic parent is how to blame themselves. We know that this childhood abuse — whether overt psychological warfare, covert emotional manipulation, or the …
Recovering From Self-Abandonment After Narcissistic and Scapegoat Abuse
“Self-abandonment was my way of dealing with their abandonment.” This is the realization one of my readers came to and shared with me in a recent email. They continued, “What’s …
Reigniting Your Joy, Energy, and Motivation After Narcissistic System Abuse
Are you languishing in life? Not to be that person that reminds you of the existential horror of the pandemic but…remember that? Remember when you were sitting at home, lonely …
How “Narcissistic Training” Harms You Even When You’ve Left Toxicity Behind
How many of you didn’t pursue your goals and dreams? How many of you aren’t just grieving what happened to you, but are grieving the loss of who you wanted …
Risking Imperfection as a Survivor of Narcissistic System and Scapegoating Abuse
Do you ever feel the paralyzing effects of perfectionism? When I was doing my doctorate, my burnout levels were so high that I ended up having to write my entire …
Toxic Nostalgia: What To Do When Narcissistic System Abuse and Scapegoating Poison Your Cherished Memories and Objects
Ongoing trauma processing can sneak up on you when least expected. Just when you think the nightmares are over, boom you’re hit with some unknown trigger that sets your nervous …
Rumination: The Invisible Trauma Bond That Re-Attaches You To Toxicity
My phone tells me how many hours I spend online. The weekly report offers comparisons from one week to the next; Was I up 33% from last week? Was it …
Going No Contact On Your Terms: Hidden Choices, Power Moves, And The Reality Of ‘Navigating’ Narcissistic Systems
“I’ve been no contact for 23 years…and I still cry every day” “I went no-contact last week and I’ve never felt more free” “I can’t keep playing this Rigged Game, …
Unmasking Trauma: Making Recovery From Attachment Wounding More Bearable
How heavy is your mask? Are you walking around your life like “Trauma in a Trenchcoat”? Meaning, are you using up all your energy to “mask” and hide away your trauma …