The first thing children learn when they have a narcissistic parent is how to blame themselves. We know that this childhood abuse — whether overt psychological warfare, covert emotional manipulation, or the …
Self-Policing: How Narcissistic System Abuse Teaches Us To Abandon Ourselves
I’m sitting by a woodstove while the sun glistens off several feet of crisp white snow outside my window. The dark days of winter are hard, but days like this …
How “Narcissistic Training” Harms You Even When You’ve Left Toxicity Behind
How many of you didn’t pursue your goals and dreams? How many of you aren’t just grieving what happened to you, but are grieving the loss of who you wanted …
Narcissistic System Abuse: What It Is, How It Works, and Why It’s So Damaging
“I feel like I am covered in a shroud that no one else can see and that no one else wears”, says Melissa, a 40-something mother of one. Melissa came …
Emotional Survival Skills For The Family Scapegoat: Granting Yourself ‘Permission To Feel’ Can Set You Free
Healing is about feeling. If you’ve ever stepped into a therapy office, chances are you have been asked the question, “How do you feel about that?” If you are anything …
5 Signs Of “Recovery Burnout” And Why Survivors Of Narcissistic and Scapegoating Abuse Are More At Risk
What happens when you’re in your trauma journey and you are actually too burnt out to even talk with your coach or therapist? How do you heal when the thought …
The Challenge of Making Good Friends After Attachment Wounding
Finding safe and supportive communities after experiencing attachment trauma is a real battle. Not because you are undeserving, not because you are difficult to love, not because you are weird, …
Are You Playing The Victim, Or Just Gaslighting Yourself?
It wasn’t so bad, was it? Stop playing the victim. You’re an adult now, they don’t own you. It’s in the past. You are strong. Pick yourself up and keep …
Are You The Assh*le?
“The truest marker of an unhealthy dynamic is when the emotionally mature person starts thinking they’re the asshole every time they choose to prioritize their wellbeing”. If you have never once asked …