“Self-abandonment was my way of dealing with their abandonment.” This is the realization one of my readers came to and shared with me in a recent email. They continued, “What’s …
How “Narcissistic Training” Harms You Even When You’ve Left Toxicity Behind
How many of you didn’t pursue your goals and dreams? How many of you aren’t just grieving what happened to you, but are grieving the loss of who you wanted …
Risking Imperfection as a Survivor of Narcissistic System and Scapegoating Abuse
Do you ever feel the paralyzing effects of perfectionism? When I was doing my doctorate, my burnout levels were so high that I ended up having to write my entire …
Unmasking Trauma: Making Recovery From Attachment Wounding More Bearable
How heavy is your mask? Are you walking around your life like “Trauma in a Trenchcoat”? Meaning, are you using up all your energy to “mask” and hide away your trauma …
The Surprising Ways You Are Stuck In Recovery
How long before I am healed? That is the most common question I am asked during consults. Will it be 6 months? 2 years? A decade still? How long before …
How To Recover From Toxicity When You Are Exhausted And Everything Is Working Against You
One of the questions I get asked a lot is “How do I recover when there is so much out of my control?” For example, when I am still living …
Are You Playing The Victim, Or Just Gaslighting Yourself?
It wasn’t so bad, was it? Stop playing the victim. You’re an adult now, they don’t own you. It’s in the past. You are strong. Pick yourself up and keep …
You were not made to stay small.
Are you standing on the edge of your life, terrified to dive in? This is not a motivational pep talk. I’m not gonna tell you to leave the cocoon so you …