Ongoing trauma processing can sneak up on you when least expected. Just when you think the nightmares are over, boom you’re hit with some unknown trigger that sets your nervous …
Surviving Mother’s Day After A Lifetime of Narcissistic And Family Scapegoating Abuse
For scapegoats, Mother’s Day is a day of loss. The commercials start off with messages of honouring your mother for the incredible woman she is. She is beautiful! Perfect! Amazing! …
Facing Family Ejection: The Stark Truth About Speaking Out About Scapegoating
“I still have dreams where I can’t speak. I’m with my family of origin and I’m trying to tell them what I know, what I have found out: the abuse, …
The Dual-Edged Trauma of Family Estrangement
“No one would choose this! Why would anyone choose this? Who would go out of their way to be disconnected from a family that is supposedly loving, to lose all …
What is “Scapegoat Grief” and How Is It Different From Other Types of Grief?
Grief is what we experience when we have a painful loss. Grief can be very “clean” when we’ve had things like closure after a relationship, the ability to say goodbye …
The Silent Grief of Attachment Wounds
There is an extended version of this article now available on Medium.com. If you experienced attachment wounds growing up, then you have become close friends with grief. You have had …