Betrayal. Hypocrisy. Injustice. Reputation Assassination. Identity theft. Because that’s what it is, isn’t it? When the Narcissistic System or Scapegoat Machine gets a hold of you… Emotional kidnapping. Love held …
Toxic Nostalgia: What To Do When Narcissistic System Abuse and Scapegoating Poison Your Cherished Memories and Objects
Ongoing trauma processing can sneak up on you when least expected. Just when you think the nightmares are over, boom you’re hit with some unknown trigger that sets your nervous …
There’s No Place Like Home: Creating New Horizons When You’ve Been Ejected From The Scapegoat Family
“I am lucky to have good neighbours. We’ve become close-ish. Hopefully, our friendship will continue to grow. It’s a small mercy, given I uprooted my life, and departed all my …
Facing Family Ejection: The Stark Truth About Speaking Out About Scapegoating
“I still have dreams where I can’t speak. I’m with my family of origin and I’m trying to tell them what I know, what I have found out: the abuse, …
How To Recover From Toxicity When You Are Exhausted And Everything Is Working Against You
One of the questions I get asked a lot is “How do I recover when there is so much out of my control?” For example, when I am still living …
What is “Scapegoat Grief” and How Is It Different From Other Types of Grief?
Grief is what we experience when we have a painful loss. Grief can be very “clean” when we’ve had things like closure after a relationship, the ability to say goodbye …
The Silent Grief of Attachment Wounds
There is an extended version of this article now available on Medium.com. If you experienced attachment wounds growing up, then you have become close friends with grief. You have had …