Narcissistic System Abuse: What It Is, How It Works, and Why It’s So Damaging
“I feel like I am covered in a shroud that no one else can see and that no one else wears”, says Melissa, a 40-something mother of one. Melissa came …
Rumination: The Invisible Trauma Bond That Re-Attaches You To Toxicity
My phone tells me how many hours I spend online. The weekly report offers comparisons from one week to the next; Was I up 33% from last week? Was it …
Going No Contact On Your Terms: Hidden Choices, Power Moves, And The Reality Of ‘Navigating’ Narcissistic Systems
“I’ve been no contact for 23 years…and I still cry every day” “I went no-contact last week and I’ve never felt more free” “I can’t keep playing this Rigged Game, …
Unmasking Trauma: Making Recovery From Attachment Wounding More Bearable
How heavy is your mask? Are you walking around your life like “Trauma in a Trenchcoat”? Meaning, are you using up all your energy to “mask” and hide away your trauma …
The Surprising Ways You Are Stuck In Recovery
How long before I am healed? That is the most common question I am asked during consults. Will it be 6 months? 2 years? A decade still? How long before …
There’s No Place Like Home: Creating New Horizons When You’ve Been Ejected From The Scapegoat Family
“I am lucky to have good neighbours. We’ve become close-ish. Hopefully, our friendship will continue to grow. It’s a small mercy, given I uprooted my life, and departed all my …
Emotional Survival Skills For The Family Scapegoat: Granting Yourself ‘Permission To Feel’ Can Set You Free
Healing is about feeling. If you’ve ever stepped into a therapy office, chances are you have been asked the question, “How do you feel about that?” If you are anything …
Rejection Sensitivity: How Abandonment Wounds Distort Your Social Life And The Way You See Yourself
Imagine a moment when you walked into a room and it suddenly got quiet. Or that time in the elevator when you overheard whispering. When your friend didn’t text back …
Surviving Mother’s Day After A Lifetime of Narcissistic And Family Scapegoating Abuse
For scapegoats, Mother’s Day is a day of loss. The commercials start off with messages of honouring your mother for the incredible woman she is. She is beautiful! Perfect! Amazing! …
Facing Family Ejection: The Stark Truth About Speaking Out About Scapegoating
“I still have dreams where I can’t speak. I’m with my family of origin and I’m trying to tell them what I know, what I have found out: the abuse, …