How heavy is your mask? Are you walking around your life like “Trauma in a Trenchcoat”? Meaning, are you using up all your energy to “mask” and hide away your trauma …
The Surprising Ways You Are Stuck In Recovery
How long before I am healed? That is the most common question I am asked during consults. Will it be 6 months? 2 years? A decade still? How long before …
There’s No Place Like Home: Creating New Horizons When You’ve Been Ejected From The Scapegoat Family
“I am lucky to have good neighbours. We’ve become close-ish. Hopefully, our friendship will continue to grow. It’s a small mercy, given I uprooted my life, and departed all my …
Emotional Survival Skills For The Family Scapegoat: Granting Yourself ‘Permission To Feel’ Can Set You Free
Healing is about feeling. If you’ve ever stepped into a therapy office, chances are you have been asked the question, “How do you feel about that?” If you are anything …
Six Ways To Move Beyond Anger and Injustice After Narcissistic and Scapegoating Abuse
Injustice can stall us halfway through our stories of recovery. We have grieved the pain and losses, and we have worked on finding our voice, but when that wall of …
5 Signs Of “Recovery Burnout” And Why Survivors Of Narcissistic and Scapegoating Abuse Are More At Risk
What happens when you’re in your trauma journey and you are actually too burnt out to even talk with your coach or therapist? How do you heal when the thought …
How Toxic Families Rob You Of Your Life, Joy And Identity (And How To Get Them Back)
If this were a poem, it would be titled “All That You’ve Lost”. One of the hardest parts of being an adult with attachment trauma is looking back on your …
When No One Believes You: Working Through The Betrayal And Injustice Of Narcissistic Abuse
There are truly no words to describe the agony of not being believed. I worked for years as a trauma therapist specializing in abusive relationships and toxic families. Day in …
The Ongoing Trauma Of Surviving Narcissistic Abuse
Attachment trauma isn’t something that happens in convenient pockets throughout the day, turning on and off and giving you a break every once in a while. Attachment trauma happens always. …
Finding Joy and Happiness After Narcissistic Abuse
The most difficult feeling in your life won’t be the pain that comes from deep loss. It won’t be the grief, anxiety and depression that follow trauma. And it won’t …